Who Do They Think They Are?

Hot Mama,

Sometimes I wonder how guys can be so completely arrogant and self-assured. It is my hope for women everywhere that maybe men are just clueless, but I really can't be too sure. Recently I went to visit my sister and celebrate her 25th birthday. After a great day of the beach and bbq's, we decided to continue the celebration out at a popular bar. We were all just looking to dance and have a good time, so when a guy approached me and offered to buy me a drink, I gladly accepted. (Who turns down a free shot!?) While at the bar this guy (who is cute enough) and I are talking. We have barely exchanged names when he starts talking about how I should go home with him... UM, excuse me? Why would I want to go home with you? I don't even know you! I tell him that I don't think my friend would appreciate me ditching her. His response, "Just ask her..." Knowing exactly how my friend would respond, I asked if it was okay if I went home with this stranger that we had known for 5 minutes. Of course she says no. He proceeds to tell her, "Don't worry, I can have her home by 4, she can take a taxi." I was completely taken aback by his comment, so I took my free shot, and couldn't get away fast enough. Really, it's already 1:30 now, what's it going to take? 10 minutes of bad sex and then you send me on my merry way back in a taxi. Such a tempting offer... NOT. Do these kinds of lines ever actually work? Was he just taking a shot in the dark and hoping that it would pan out or is he normally successful with this kind of creeper status?
-Eager Beaver

Eager Beaver,

OMG! I don’t even know what’s up with these guys. But it seems even my generation has taken to stranger sex as casually as they change underwear. Eager Beaver, I don’t think men are clueless but that women have given themselves to men far too easily. And when you give someone an inch, they’ll take the proverbial mile. I think women need to look in the mirror for men’s attitude about sex. Somewhere along the way we convinced ourselves that if we don’t give them what they want they won’t call us. Guess what? If you sleep with them within 5 minutes of meeting them, they’re NOT calling anyway! They don’t RESPECT you. They want to use you as a repository for their sperm! Hey, if you just want to have a good time, go for it (with protection of course!) but don’t expect that they’ll be calling you two days later for a date. I truly believe men are just responding to what women are putting out there because there are enough women out there willing to allow easy access to their vajayjay and men know it. So, they just keep tossing out a line until they get a girl who’ll say “yes” and, the sad thing is, they’ll eventually find one. Whether she’s too drunk to know better or just desperate for a hook-up the message is the same “We’re easy and available and we’ll even suck your cock in a bathroom stall if you want us too because we have NO self-esteem or self-respect!”. Until women start saying “No” again and demanding at a minimum to be taken out on a few dates to get to know each other, then why would a man ever want to change when he has access to pussy galore? So, the real question is “Who do Women Think They Are?” Gutter trash?
-Hot Mama

Oh Hot Mama,

You are SO right, maybe it is ultimately our fault for not demanding respect from men. That same night my friend and I were dancing with two buddies, and the guy that I was with was starting to get super aggressive. His hands were all over me, and he kept trying to put his hands down my leggings, SO AWKWARD, especially in public. Then he was dancing behind me and kept trying to turn my face and yank me around to make out with him. I wasn't feeling it at all, so I went outside and talked on the phone to this guy that I'm seeing. When my friend came out to find me and make sure I was okay, we laughed about how aggressive and creepy the guy had been. Fast forward to two weeks later, and my friend gets a text message from his buddy saying, "My friend really likes your gf, can I have her phone number so he can call her?" Uh, are you kidding me?? I practically sprinted away from you. But in the end we got our message across with my friend’s reply "Mmmmmm don't think so, sorry dude. She wasn't impressed with the vag-grabbing." Just trying to do our part for women everywhere by respecting ourselves and putting these uber aggressive guys in their place.
-Annoyed Eager Beaver