Does Penis Size REALLY Matter?

Eager Beaver,

All my life women have tried to reassure men that size doesn't matter. That it's the "motion of the ocean" that rocks our world. And to some extent this is true. BUT the more true thing is that size DOES matter and, more specifically, girth is what matters because it provides us girls with more friction for our button. Long and skinny doesn't cut it. Long and large is just downright painful. There's just this sort of "right" size for most women that works. Longish and girthy but not too girthy because that can lead to "rug burn." Penis size, while important for achieving possible orgasm during intercourse, is actually not the most important thing. The most important element in love making is a man's skill because most women, much as we would LOVE to, do not come through sexual intercourse alone. Our buttons are a little too far away from the action and a little too small to be hit in the right spot for maximum friction during intercourse. So, having a man who is skilled in the way a woman's body works is AMAZING. And I mean really skilled as in "I didn't even know my body could do that!" skilled.

I had the good fortune to have sex with someone whom I'd been friends with for four years but never imagined hooking up with (for a variety of reasons). We discussed whether or not we should take the friendship to the next level because we worried that we would ruin what we had. After some sexting, it just became too much and we went there. In my mind, it would be an OTO thing because, frankly, I thought it would suck and that would be the end of that. Boy was I wrong. Holy Cow. My friend turned out to be the most amazing, skilled lover I ever had in my entire life and I learned some things about my body I never knew before. Like what? Well, that whole debate on whether or not women can gush fluid while orgasming? I found out for the first time in my life this is absolutely true! Unbelievable. It actually makes me sad though because I went through my adult life not knowing I was capable of this. I have been sexually conservative, in terms of partners not emotions, most of my life. Didn't have sex until I was 22, met my husband-to-be at 25, got married at 28, divorced at 41 and have kept men out of my children's lives for all the obvious reasons. So, to experience this now blows my mind, and other body parts, in so many ways. And in terms of the friendship with the guy; I think we may have screwed the pooch. Which sucks. Sex on top of friendship just doesn't work. I am grateful to him for showing me how amazing my body is BUT also fearful that I won't find someone that skilled EVER again. Based on your own short experience Eager Beaver, what do you think about the possibilities for me? Should I just move into the home now?
-Sad But Exhilarated Hot Mama

Oh Hot Mama,

I don't even know WHERE to begin on this one. I think that you are absolutely right, penis size does play a part in the quality of sex, but it is definitely not everything. People are so obsessed with men who have a big dick, but really, what's the use if they don't know what to do with it?? It's like guys who are extremely hot and feel like they don't have to do or give anything in a relationship... so NOT cool. I've been lucky enough to have the same AMAZING, mind-blowing, didn't know it was possible, kind of sex like you've had. And just like you, it didn't end well. And once it's gone, you wonder if you will ever get that again. From my experience so far, I haven't been fortunate enough to find it again. Here's to hoping for both of us, that someone is going to come along and restore our faith!
-Eager Beaver