Ashley Let Your Brain Do the Thinking, Please!

Dearest Eager Beaver,

What on God's green earth is wrong with this season's Bachelorette? I have never seen a such smart, cute, tight-bodied woman with such low self-esteem! How is it possible that she had 25 eligible men get out of that limo in the first show and she falls head-over-heels for the kind of creepy guy a mother hopes her daughter never crosses paths with? If I were talking right now I would be stuttering because I just can't get the words out fast enough or loud enough to express my complete and utter dismay over Ashley's lack of sense. Here's an educated good-looking woman who's about done with dental school, has a to-die-for body, adorable personality (when she's not being annoying of course) and is so insecure about her looks that she somehow immediately zeroes in on the biggest loser ever to come to reality tv because, according to Ashley, "he's hot." Bentley had an X on his forehead from the moment he stepped out of the limo because she had been warned that he wasn't on the show for the right reasons. Yet, not only did she choose to allow him on the show she put him through TWO rose ceremonies and said he is the front runner for her affections. I say he is the front runner for her physical affections.Women like her give women like us a bad name. Out of 25 guys she managed to "nail" the worst in the bunch. She doesn't have a shred of common sense! He is not "hot" he is reprehensible and I would so like to find out how he was raised to be the lowest of low human beings. Also, I have a big question mark over Ashley's parents heads right now too. How did she grow up thinking that everything she had going for her wasn't enough, that if only she was conventionally pretty she would be loveable? But no. She chases the wrong men constantly because she doesn't believe in or respect herself based on nothing but looks. Ashley use the brain God gave you and your heart! If you connect with a man in these two areas everything else will follow! She really is behaving no better than a man right now, all eyes no brains. I'm just disgusted.
-Hot Mama

OMG Hot Mama,

No other Bachelorette has ever bothered me more than Ashley. I just can't even deal with her at all and I really couldn't agree with you more. Her insecurities are so completely glaring. I thought that we saw them on her season with Brad, and now they are even more clear. It's like REALLY?!?! A friend of yours texts you and tells you that Bentley is there with bad intentions and doesn't actually want to pursue you, and somehow you still decide to keep him around?! And not just through one rose ceremony, but multiple rose ceremonies. Is it just because he is good looking and this is the first "hot" guy who has ever been interested in her? It's really interesting that you say that she doesn't think that she is good enough. It seems like she is so uncomfortable in her own skin and so wrapped up in her looks. I can't imagine what it's going to be like for poor Ashley going forward when she has to watch these episodes. Seeing all of the terrible things that Bentley has said about her, and wishing that it was Emily or Chantal instead of her... It's certainly not going to bolster her self-esteem. But really she needed Hot Mama around to teach her about being self-confident and picking a man who is there for the right reasons! I don't know how I am going to make it through the rest of the season watching her doubt herself at every single turn!
-Eager Beaver

"The Real Housewives..." Is this Reality?!

Hot Mama,

I know I can say this to you without fear of judgement or a serious eyeroll, but I do spend a seious amount of time glued to my television watching, "The Real Housewives of Orange County." And I have to say that recently I've discovered I'm not the only one. It seems as if the "Real Housewives" craze has gotten to almost everyone I know! They have "real" housewives from everywhere these days: New York, New Jersey, Atlanta, OC, Beverly Hills, etc. Even just the slightest mention of Housewives gets women talking. But why?! Why are we so obsessed with watching these women whose supposed real lives are a far cry from anyone that I know. They consider 'working' as having a clothing line or designing handbags or make-up. And are continually throwing huge lavish parties and vacations where they invite their 'friends,' who are actually more like frenemies in most cases. They spend 95% of the time bashing the women that they claim to be BFF's with behind their backs. They all have something negative to say about each other, or each others relationships, or jobs (or lack there of). And I wonder if I was poked and proded and prompted enough by Producers, if I would be able to say such negative and hurtful things about someone else, someone who is supposedly my friend, behind her back. I don't think that I could, and why would I chose to continue to spend time with someone if I didn't have anything good to say about them? And on top of that, trying to keep track of who is friends at any given point in time can be overwhelming and exhausting. One minute they hate each other, and the next minute, they're double dating and bashing someone else's husband. These women have insane amounts of disposable income, and spend a vast majority of their time devoted to their looks and upkeep. They don't talk about anything useful or productive, and most of the time they are downright mean. So why do I like it? And not just me, but women across America... Why do we ALL like it? How have they made SIX seasons of the same show? Nothing has changed, it's just the same old stuff, different day. It's in no way, shape or form a reflection of the real life of a woman. Having a nanny, and a cook, and a party planner, and a personal assistant... Yeah, I don't have ANY of those things. But somehow, I keep on watching. And not gonna lie, I love it! What gives... why do we spend countless hours watching this nonsense??
-Eager "Real Housewive of the REAL World" Beaver

Eager Beaver,

I admit that I too watch those shows occasionally and I HATE them! They just totally contribute to the idea that women are nothing more than grownup "mean girls!" Wow, I always say most men don't ever "grow up" they just "grow old" but these shows say exactly the same thing about women! It's mortifying. Who ARE these women? How did they all get such a sense of entitlement? I mean, seriously, their poop stinks just like anyone else's, worse probably. And an even bigger question for me is who are these MEN that marry them? What sane man finds these highly kept women attractive in any way? They do NOTHING! They don't even raise their own kids! And they're so botoxed and blown out who would want to sleep with them? So, what are they good for? Running around backstabbing their "friends" and spending the man's money? I think people watch because it's like watching the "Stepford Wives" in a car crash. I guess it's this generation's "reality" version of "Dallas." I end up having to turn it off because I can't handle their mean-spirited vapidness. It turns my stomach. I do wonder when they watch themselves back if they have even the slightest shred of decency to be a little embarrassed by their behavior? Or were they all raised by wolves? I'm guessing it's the latter.
-Hot Mama

Maria Shoulda Terminated this Relationship from the Beginning...

Eager Beaver,

What is wrong with women? How can they listen to advice from people, ignore it and their own internal warning system to end up with guys like Arnold Schwarznegger? Geez, everybody on the PLANET knew that Arnold was a horndog when they started dating. His reputation reaches all the way back to his first days in Hollywood and most likely back to his teenage years. I personally know TWO women who have been sexually harassed by Arnold. In both situations he physically man-handled them completely uninvited not to mention unwanted!!! I'm one person. His reputation in the film industry is hugely filthy. Why did Maria Shriver ignore what was surely everyone's (Oprah, Mary Hart) advice to stay away from this man? She claims that just because her family's men have a sordid sexual history doesn't mean that she just "accepts" that behavior in men. And so you were thinking what exactly when you started dating one of the worst offenders in Hollywood? It just completely boggles my mind. I don't think anyone out here in the real world is shocked by Arnold's love child with the maid but we're more shocked by the fact that Maria seems shocked. Really? Really?
-Hot Mama

Okay Hot Mama,

Can I just say first off that I cannot believe that you know TWO people who he has sexually harassed. On top of that I am SO glad that you share my opinions about him. I literally thought that it was just me. I find him so completely unattractive, like damn near the point of repulsive. And it's like seriously?! A gorgeous, amazing, fabulous, brilliant woman like Maria was bamboozled by Arnold. And on top of ALL of that she managed to stay with him for years and years and years. And stand by him during everything.

I'm certainly not shocked by the love child scandal, and honestly I hardly flinched when I heard the story break. Apparently Maria had known about it for quite a few months before, like even before the holidays! And on top of the that, being the gracious woman that she is, she waited to make the announcement. AND she supposedly let the maid stay with them until after the holidays, because she didn't want to make it rough on her family. Arnold never deserved a woman like Maria, and hopefully she can get out of there fast, and start a new life over with her children. And now that he's no longer in office, I hope to NEVER hear about that scoundrel again!
-REPULSED EagerBeaver