Eager Beaver,
I'm so pissed off I can hardly see straight. I've been on an online dating site for three weeks now and have only been on two dates so far, one of them with Mr. Frankenstein whom I've already written about. My second date was with a man 17 years younger than me who looked 10 years older and since I look 10 years younger it didn't seem far-fetched... plus he doesn't want to have kids. Perfect because my eggs are past their pull-date anyway. We hit it off intellectually which was so nice as it can be difficult to find an intelligent conversationalist! Oh, but then it quickly degenerated into him expressing his interest in having sex with me. Whatever, flattering I guess, but the reason I have been so choosey about who I respond to is trying to cull out the creepers who are only online for sex! Sooo many of them are and if they aren't...well, let's just say there's a reason they're alone. It's freaking frustrating but I think part of the problem is the women online. I mean, have you looked at some of their profiles?!!! They might as well just be naked for the way they're practically screaming for a good f...! Holy moly! Aaack, aren't there ANY men left out there who're looking for a genuine relationship with a nice person and, trust me, I'm not opposed to hot sex but getting to know each other should come first? Shouldn't it? Or am I just old-fashioned? Have you jumped into the online shark tank, I mean pool, yet?
-Hot Mama
Hot Mama,
I am no longer a virgin! Well... no longer an online dating virgin that is. Despite your ups and downs, and your story about Mr. Frankenstein, I decided to go through with it, and actually go out on a date with a guy I met online. Now, to protect his identity, let's call my date, Mr. Do-Gooder. I call him this with sincerity, and in no way to be a joke. I have only been "dating" online for a week, and he is one of the first guys whose email sparked my interest. I have been getting so many, "You're hot" or "Are you interested in me?" emails, that I was about ready to throw in the towel and give up, when I got the email from Mr. Do-Gooder. His email to me was short and sweet, and he said that he thought we lived too far apart, but wanted me to know that he thought I was beautiful. So I emailed him back, thanking him for the nice email and detailing all of the creeper / loser guys I had met online. After a few emails back and forth he tells me that he has been traveling and visiting friends out of state, but will be driving through Portland on his way home. He asked me if I wanted to meet for dinner... so I said yes. I didn't feel nervous about the date until about an hour before, and then I was completely ready to cancel. But I gave myself a pep-talk and reminded myself that I am a strong and independent woman, and that it was basically like meeting a new friend. So I show up, and to my surprise he is actually cuter than he was in his pictures. He was smart, well-spoken, interesting, and actually asked me questions about myself. (How refreshing compared to most of the men that I've dated!!) Mr. Do-Gooder described his three years in the Peace Corps in Africa (I told you he was a Do-Gooder) and about his excitment to start Law School this fall. After a great dinner the night ended and we exchanged text messages later saying that we both had a great time. Go figure, wouldn't it be my luck that I would meet a good guy and he lives 3 1/2 hours away. BUT this has definitely given me hope. Not to say that I don't think I will get a lot more creeper emails, but maybe there are some good guys out there online, just trying to meet that perfect girl...
-Eager Beaver
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